OPINION: Why you must wed before settling in a marriage

OPINION: Why you must wed before settling in a marriage


The other day I attended a friend’s wedding and it created a whole new view of marriage and weddings in me. I have been that kind of person who has never fancied weddings; considering them useless parties that bring people from several divides together, to eat and watch as you exchange vows and put on rings – useless things that be done from your house. For the longest time now, I have preferred civil weddings, the kind that you go to the chief or any legal officer to register you as husband and wife.

My perception however was only good enough to last up to yesterday. Yesterday’s event brought to life the wedding desire in me. I can’t really tell what time the wedding started but I can bet all the events that occurred before I got there were as good as those that transpired after I got there. I got to the wedding only to find the couple exchanging vows. That vows thing OMG! Every human surely needs to experience that feeling. It was so deep it gave me a second thought. Just imagine someone you met and fell in love with committing and promising you a future together before a multitude. Oh how it feels…

So I was thinking about what was so intriguing about this wedding which changed my perception and you won’t believe what crossed my mind. It all would sound silly but it is the unchangeable truth. One thing that I would like to get an experience of is the moment itself: That wedding moment. The moment you come to terms with realty that you are committing to staying and only having eyes on one person for the rest of your lifetime. The moment you bring to light what has bee happening behind the scenes of a shared love. You know how weird it sometimes feels. Or, how hard-to-get some women play before they fully accept you into their lives. How would it feel knowing that you already went through and succeeded in all this hectic procedures? And, that you are about to be pronounced a ‘thing’. Feels awesome, right?

The décor for a well-planned wedding; who wouldn’t love the arrangement? The red carpet, the flowers on the sides, the writings on the wall ( X weds Y ), the lights, the musical instruments playing background music, the camera lights lighting you from every angle, the dresses and dress code, the wedding gown and the young boys and girls in crowns, the endless list of decorations. I would surely like to be chief guest of such a well-planned event.

Then there is the wedding cake. Have you noticed that most people only come to weddings just because of the cake? Well, I am one of them. The sweetness of that cake, a reflection of a sweet life to come. If you go to weddings and leave before eating the cake then you don’t know what took you there. How on earth can you skip the most crucial part of an event? The joy that comes with family and friends… If you’ve been to a wedding, I am sure you’ve seen how hyper these people are. Everyone is always dancing even when the music is not playing. Some even carry chief guests high up and dance them around. I want this experience on my own. And now the most critical of it all is the vows part. Just imagine how you would feel if that girl you are dating right now makes a vow of being yours and yours alone forever. It would feel awesome, right?

Well, with all these packages in one event, I am now a transformed person. I will and we all
deserve a wedding.

Charles Getembe

Charles Getembe

Charles Getembe is the founder and CEO of The Campus Magazine. He is a passionate writer specialized in Print Journalism from The University of Nairobi.

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